Abduljabbar Ali She told you not to wait for her because she doesn’t want you to keep hoping she will come through for you.
If she told you not to wait for her, the truth is that she doesn’t want you to focus on her. She wants you to move on with your life.
Find someone else who will be there for you because she will never come back for you. I know it sounds like a rejection, yes it’s but indirectly.
In this article, I will share what it means when a girl tells you not to wait for her and why she told you that.
As you keep reading you will understand there is something to what she told you. Sometimes a girl will use just a random phrase to protect your feelings.
What does it mean when a girl tells you not to wait for her?
When a girl tells you not to wait for her it means she doesn’t want you to focus on her anymore because she is not likely to give you what you want. She wants you to move on with your life because waiting for her will only cause you disappointments.
She is telling you early in advance that she will not give you a chance no matter how long you wait for her. The best thing you can do is live your life without expecting much from her.
If she told you that she is not ready for a relationship and also told you not to wait for her, she doesn’t want you to stick with the hopes of pulling her to your side.
Waiting for her won’t get any better for you or it won’t make her change her mind about what you have asked of her. She doesn’t want to hurt your heart by keeping you waiting for her and later it turns out that she can’t give you what you wanted.
She is being honest with you about where she stands right now regarding what you asked of her.
Anyway, there could be several reasons why she told you not to wait for her, as you continue reading, you will know them all.
This is why she told you not to wait for her;
1. She is surely not interested in you.
If she told you that she is not ready to be in a relationship with you for now, and you asked her if you should wait for her but she told you not to — this means she is not interested in you.
That’s the truth, I know you may not want to hear it but there it is. She is not into you and that is why she told you not to wait for her.
When a girl is into you, it doesn’t matter what happens, where she is going, or how unsure she is about how the relationship will work out, she will ask you to hold on to her.
She will want you to keep waiting for her no matter how long it will take for her to find her way back to you or give in to what you want from her.
But if she tells you not to wait for her this shows that she is not into you. You are simply not the person she wants to have in her life.
She knows what she wants and the kind of a guy she needs, you don’t fit her category and that is why she doesn’t want you to waste your time hoping that she will eventually open her heart for you.
She didn’t want to tell you the truth because she knew it would hurt your feelings. It can be that you were close and she didn’t want things to end up on bad terms.
If a girl is interested in you, you don’t need to check for signs under the bed, everything will be clear. She will be willing to risk everything just to make things happen.
It doesn’t matter how far she will be from you, she will keep holding on to you and she will ask you to do the same.
If she is not ready to be with you for now yet she is interested in you, she will ask you to wait for her and never let anyone occupy her space.
She is just not into you and that is why she told you not to wait for her.
2. She doesn’t plan on coming back for you.
In another case, if she is moving far away and she told you not to wait for her, she is not planning on coming back for you.
It can be that you hoped you would do a long-distance relationship when she is far from you until she comes back.
Simple case, for instance, if she is going to a university far away and it will be hard for you to be close again for a while and she tells you not to wait for her — she wants you to move on with your life.
She is not planning to come back and lay in your arms again. It’s like she is telling you goodbye. Even if she comes back after a while don’t expect her to come back into your life.
Let me say it’s like she is breaking up with you but indirectly. If it’s truly the case of her moving far away from you.
She knows that a long distance relationship with you won’t work out that is why she doesn’t want you to waste your time waiting for her.
In another case, if she wanted you to give her a break and you asked her for how long you should wait for her but her response was this, “Don’t wait for me.” That relationship is over and there is nothing you can do about it.
What I’m trying to say here is that when a girl tells you not to wait for her in any circumstances that require her to get back to you, she is telling you that she is not thinking of coming back to you or giving you what you want.
She is not thinking of turning back on you or giving you anything that you dearly want from her.
3. She wants you to move on.
If a girl tells you not to wait for her it means she wants you to move on with your life, find someone else and let her occupy your life.
She doesn’t want you to wait for her and end up missing your chance of having someone who genuinely cares about you when she doesn’t think that what you have will work out the way she expects.
She wants you to open your heart to other girls who are into you and find something else that will keep pushing you.
Deep down she knows that it will take quite a long time for her to get back to you or give you what you want.
You still have a life, you have feelings, desires, and urges to be around someone who is going to take care of you and make your life radiant.
Asking you to wait for her will be unfair to her because she will be imposing on you a life that you won’t manage. She doesn’t want you to be lonely and miss your chance to meet amazing individuals just for her sake.
She wants you to open your heart to other people, be open to new experiences, and explore your choices but don’t get stuck on thinking that she will come back into your life or give you a chance.
If she tells you to wait for her it means she will have to put you in a situation that will not allow you to invite other people into your life.
She doesn’t want to put you through that and that is why she wants you to move on with your life.
4. She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
She told you not to wait for her because she didn’t want to hurt you. The truth is that she could have told you something far far worse.
But she chose to phrase her words in a statement for you to find the clues yourself.
If she told you that she is unsure of how she feels for you and you went on asking her if you should wait for her to be certain, and the response she gave you is what we are talking about, she just didn’t want to hurt your feelings.
She sugar-coated her words. But what could have come from her mouth would have hurt you so badly. But she chose to protect your feelings.
When a girl tells you not to wait for her and she distances herself away from you, she is just not on your radar at all.
5. Someone else is waiting for her or vice versa.
If she doesn’t want you to wait for her, she is waiting for someone else or she gave her promise to another guy.
Before you came in she already was waiting for someone else or she had already given her promise to another guy.
She just doesn’t want to make it clear to you. The truth is that if she is not on your side, she is on someone’s else side.
That’s the truth of how things are. If you don’t fit into her category someone else surely does. If you can’t get the chance someone else will.
You just have to accept that she is not going to be in your life and that is why she told you not to wait for her anymore. If you choose to wait for her it’s your loss.
A woman won’t always be open to you about everything that goes on in her life. She will always hide some details especially when she thinks it’s for the best.
Someone somewhere is waiting for her and that is why she doesn’t want you to.
How will you feel when you keep waiting for her and later on you find out that she had someone else she was waiting for?
This will crash you into pieces and she doesn’t want that to happen to you and that is why she is telling you early in advance.
Lastly…
When a girl asks you not to wait for her it doesn’t always refer to a negative thing. It can be that she is just telling you that just to test you.
Some girls like putting guys into tests to just see how much they love them. So, if she tells you not to wait for her, don’t blindly go with it.
Take your time to observe her before you conclude anything else. If she is giving you positive signs but what she says is negative, just take action.
Women can be super complicated sometimes and there is nothing you can do about that.
But if you notice she is super serious about what she says the best thing to do is to move on. Don’t wait for her because it will just end up hurting you.
She is telling you early in advance that she will never be on your side, so you shouldn’t waste your time thinking of getting her into your life.
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