Abduljabbar Ali When a guy wants to get to know you better does it mean he is interested in you already or is he just stalling to avoid expressing his full intentions early on?
In this article, I will share what it means when a guy says he wants to get to know you better and why so many guys use this phrase.
It’s common for so many guys to use this phrase when trying to get close to you but don’t want to tell you what they are up to.
In most cases, you won’t know if they want to get to know you because they are interested in you and want something more from you or just want to befriend you.
I can’t give a general answer to some of your questions because every guy has his goal when he gets close to you in terms of getting to know you.
Some will want to know you because they just like your personality and you seem a great person to hang out with.
Others will get close to you claiming that they want to get to know you better but they only want to see if you can fit in their category and give them what they expect.
So, before we get caught up in details, let me first start by sharing what it means when a guy says he wants to get to know you better.
What does it mean when a guy says he wants to get to know you better?
When a guy says he wants to get to know you better it means he wants to get close to you to find out what your interests are, the kind of a person you are, and if you can match up his expectations or not.
When a guy wants to get to know you he already knows what he is fishing for. He knows if he should make you his girlfriend or just a friend.
The part about getting to know you better is just confirming what he already knows about you.
And that will be if you can make a good partner or not. He just doesn’t want to tell you straight away that he wants to be with you, and later on, he finds out that you don’t meet his expectations.
He will have to end the relationship again which will be bad. So, before he decides either to befriend you or ask you to be his girlfriend, he first has to know where you can fit perfectly.
When a guy meets you and your appearance catches his attention, he won’t rush to pour out his feelings for you because it might end up being weird.
You will be like, “You don’t even know me, how come you are already in love with me?”
Most guys are aware of this and that is why they tend to use the phrase ‘get to know you better’ before they proceed to something else.
Anyway, why would a guy want to get to know you? Isn’t the name not just enough for him? Let’s talk about that now.
This is why he wants to get to know you better;
1. He likes your vibe.
When a guy gets closer to you and says that he would like to get to know you better — it’s clear that he likes your vibe.
He has seen you from afar, how you handle yourself, how you respond to the people next to you, the way you dress, and the way you handle other people.
All these things have enticed him and that is why he had to come over to start a conversation with you.
If there was nothing about you calling him towards you he wouldn’t have approached you in the first place.
Before a guy says anything to a girl, he has already surveyed her from every angle. Guys will always approach women that they are interested in.
By being interested — they have seen something worth chasing in you and that is why they made the effort of approaching you.
If you have a personality, you are attractive and you have a positive energy, any guy would want to know your story.
He will want to know the ins and outs of you. So, if he came over introduced himself, and said that he wants to get to know you, just know that he likes your vibe.
You are exactly the kind of person he can spend some time with and talk endlessly about different interesting topics.
If a guy likes your vibe, he might have different angles to hit when it comes to how he wants to connect with you.
He likes your energy but he doesn’t know if that vibe is just for the moment or it’s just who you are.
A guy may approach you with the intention of befriending you and having a good time, but later on, after he sees more from you, that is when he will start securing his place.
If he wants something more or not, you will know it as time goes by. The first thing you should note is that he likes your energy, your physical appearance, and how you handle yourself before other people.
2. He wants to get close to you.
When a guy likes your vibe, he will want to know more about you and that will eventually lead to something else.
If a guy says that he wants to get to know you better, this is just a way of him trying to get closer to you.
When someone wants to know more about you and you don’t find it to be a big deal, you will gladly open your heart to them.
You will tell them the essential things they want to know about you.
Did you know that this entire process of sharing things with him about yourself, will get you closer to each other?
You will automatically become close to each other, if there is something more between you that is slowly erupting it will be noticeable.
So, this is just a way he is using to try to get close to you. You may not know his intentions but as time goes by it will become clear to you why he wanted to get to know you.
It’s impossible to get close to someone without knowing them well enough. You have to know what they enjoy doing, what they like eating, and where they like hanging out.
All these are details that will enable you to connect with someone so easily. This is what he is trying to do.
It can be that he wants to get close to you to befriend you or he just wants someone he can call his girlfriend.
3. He wants to see if you meet his expectations.
He might have seen you from afar that you are attractive, you are a vibe and everyone likes hanging out with you.
From afar, you are exactly the kind of woman he wants to spend his time with because you are so freaking amazing.
But the truth is that he doesn’t know everything about you. He doesn’t know if you will meet his expectations or not.
That is why he doesn’t want to rush into thinking that you can be his future wife when he doesn’t know the critical details about you.
The part of him wanting to get to know you better is so that he can have a chance to go deeper and see for himself the kind of woman you are.
If you are going to tick most of his boxes, he will go ahead and express what he feels for you.
But if during the process of getting to know you, it turns out that you can’t tick most of the boxes he was hoping you would, that is when he will slowly cut himself off from you.
He will distance himself and focus on someone else who meets his expectations.
If he says he wants to get to know you better just know that he is digging you out. He wants to be sure that you can be the woman he wants to date.
4. He genuinely wants to know you and befriend you.
Not all guys who say that they want to get to know you better are interested in you romantically.
Some guys are just tired of dating and are looking for good female friends who can keep them company and enjoy their time.
If a guy wants to get to know you but doesn’t ask you personal questions or open up about his family, this shows that he just wants to befriend you and there is nothing hidden.
He thought you would be a good person to be friends with and that is why he approached you.
There must be something he saw from afar that pushed him to come to you.
It can be your physical appearance, your personality, how you handle other people next to you or it’s just that he feels you are going to have so much fun because you have so much in common.
A guy who gets close to you and doesn’t bring in romantic gestures, he just wants a pure platonic relationship with you.
5. He is just stalling.
If a guy says he wants to get to know you better, he is just stalling. He knows for sure what he wants from you.
He doesn’t have the courage to tell you straight away what he wants from you. That is why he is using the old-school approach.
First, he wants to get closer to you and befriend you before telling you how he feels about you.
It can be that he is just scared that you will reject him if he suddenly tells you that he wants to be with you.
Also, it might feel weird for you when someone you have met within a few days says that he has feelings for you.
First, he wants you to be comfortable around him so that it becomes easier for him to make his move.
He will also be using that time to observe if you have so much going on in your life or if you are just a simple girl.
When he feels that he is ready to pour his heart out, that is when he will tell you what he has been holding back since he first met you.
Lastly…
When a guy wants to get to know you it means he wants to find out if you can fit into his category or not. In most cases, it shows that he likes what he sees but he just wants to confirm some things before he makes things go deeper.
If he wants to get to know you, he is interested in you but he doesn’t want to tell you on the spot thinking that you would rule him out.
When a guy says he wants to get to know you but you don’t feel like getting close to him, just be honest with him.
Let him know that you aren’t interested in anything. He will know that you are not on his radar and he will understand that.
But if you are interested in him don’t push him away, open up to him and let him see the other side of your life. That’s how you will connect.
If he says he wants to get to know you better and you are okay with it, say, “I would like to know you too.” This will give him a gesture that you are open to any possibilities.
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