Abduljabbar Ali So, your girlfriend wants to travel with a male friend, should you allow her?
This is something tricky and your decision can one way affect how your girlfriend sees you.
To be honest, I won’t allow my girlfriend to go on a trip with a guy friend.
Just asking about it shows that she is surely considering it.
If it’s only the male friend she wants to go on a trip with, this clearly shows something is rolling even though you may not know about it.
It’s okay for your girlfriend to have friends, but there should be limits when it comes to how she interacts with them.
So, when your girlfriend wants to travel with a male friend around the world just the two of them, don’t let it happen.
Don’t allow her to go on that trip with the male friend no matter how much he means to her.
I’m pretty sure your girlfriend wouldn’t be okay with you going on a trip with your female friends.
If she isn’t okay with you doing that why should you let her?
Should you let your girlfriend go on a trip with a male friend?
You should not let your girlfriend go on a trip with her male friend no matter how much you trust her because you are tempting her to get into something that might ruin your relationship.
If you let your girlfriend travel only with her guy friend, you are allowing her to entertain him.
The guy friend she wants to travel with is into her even though your girlfriend may deny it.
Girls sometimes don’t want to admit something even when they see the direction it’s heading.
Your girlfriend may tell you that he is just a friend, but the same guy is busy hitting on her.
If you let your girlfriend travel with him you are giving him a chance to explore her more and you might not like what the guy friend will find.
She is in a relationship with you — you are the only guy she should entertain and spend most of her time with.
So, going on a trip with a guy friend is going against your relationship pledges.
The guy friend your girlfriend wants to travel with is a man with feelings, she has feelings too and something might end up happening even if your girlfriend isn’t willing.
When it comes to feelings between two people who find a liking in each other — these feelings are usually super intense.
Your girlfriend may fail to control her feelings and end up cheating on you with her male friend.
You will be the only one to blame because you allowed her to be on that trip in the first place.
So, to prevent anything from happening you shouldn’t let your girlfriend travel with her male friend.
It doesn’t matter the reason she has behind traveling with him don’t give in to her request.
She might end up concluding you don’t trust her, you are jealous and you feel insecure — let her say all that but you know you are protecting what you love.
No man is a saint, not even the guy friend she wants to travel with.
My girlfriend going on a trip with another guy
If your girlfriend just decided to pack her suitcase and went on a trip with another guy this means she wasn’t even your girlfriend to start with. You were someone close to her and not someone she wanted to commit to.
She is probably cheating on you with the guy she is traveling with.
What you have with her doesn’t count to her. She doesn’t care about you, you aren’t someone important to her and she thinks you don’t have the right to know anything she wants to do.
If she is someone you claim to be the love of your life, wake up! She doesn’t love you at all.
She didn’t even ask you or consider how you felt about what she wanted to do.
What tells you she even finds you to be the best guy for her?
You don’t have her respect, you can’t have her love.
If she is going on a trip with another guy just let her go but don’t allow her back into your life.
Let her date the guy she went on a trip with. Don’t show her that you are so desperate for her. You deserve more.
My girlfriend wants to go on a trip with a male friend, despite me saying no
When your girlfriend asks you for permission to travel with a male friend, the decision you make should be final.
It’s not like you are trying to control her life and make her feel cornered.
There are some things in a relationship that aren’t up for discussion.
One of the things is your girlfriend entertaining other guys even if they are just friends.
Your girlfriend should be mature enough to look at all sides of the coin before she even starts asking you for so weird requests.
If your girlfriend is going on a trip with a male friend despite you saying no this means that she doesn’t respect you, she doesn’t care about what you feel and she thinks you have no say over what she wants to do.
Your girlfriend doesn’t respect you and she doesn’t even consider the foundation of your relationship.
A woman who loves you wouldn’t do something that would end up hurting your feelings.
She won’t do something that goes against your wishes because she knows it will annoy you and hurt your feelings.
If your girlfriend is willing to go on a trip even after you have said no, this shows that this isn’t the only issue you will have with her.
She is not someone who considers how you feel. It will be hard for you to make solid decisions together in life.
At one point or the other, she will undermine your authority because she thinks she can do what she wants without considering how you feel.
If she insists that she wants to travel with her guy friend even after letting her know that you are uncomfortable with it, break up with her.
What I can tell you is that something is going on between your girlfriend and her male friend.
She wouldn’t have insisted on going on this trip if there wasn’t anything fishy going on behind the veil.
Maybe she is just lying to you that he is just a guy friend, but she cheats on you with him.
What you need to know is that she is aware of your situation and how this may make you feel.
She wants to do it anyway without caring how this would affect your relationship.
The truth is that you can’t control your girlfriend’s life. You can’t tie her down to prevent her from traveling with anyone she wants.
That’s up to her — she has to sit down and think about what is right and wrong before she decides to do it.
Your girlfriend has to know of limits and boundaries that she shouldn’t cross.
If she is ready to ruin the relationship for a trip with a guy friend it shows that she wasn’t seriously into you either.
When it comes to what she wants to do, saying no to her request doesn’t have anything to do with trust or the feeling of being insecure.
Having a guy friend is one thing but going on trips with him is something out of the question.
If she wants to go on a trip with a guy friend even after you said no to her request, when she goes on that trip just cut her off.
That should be the end of your relationship with her. She doesn’t respect you, doesn’t care about your feelings and she probably isn’t afraid to go against your wishes.
What to say when your girlfriend wants to go on a trip with a male friend
When your girlfriend asks you for permission to go on a trip with her male friend say this;
- I am not comfortable with you traveling with your guy friend.
- I know he is your friend, I am okay with him saying hi to you but not taking you around the globe.
- I can’t allow you to go on a trip with him because it just doesn’t add up.
- I’m too jealous and insecure to let you spend hours with your guy friend across the world.
- Seriously, how can you even consider going on a trip with him?
- The only people you are allowed to go on a trip with are your family, female friends, and me.
- Would you be comfortable with me taking another girl on a trip for days? If you aren’t okay with it then don’t even think of traveling with him.
Lastly…
If your girlfriend asks you for permission to go on a trip with her male friend don’t agree to that.
Letting her do it is like allowing her to fall into the lion’s den. You will be putting her into temptations and she might not be able to avoid them.
Don’t put your girlfriend in situations that will make it easier for her to find a reason to cheat on you.
She may be faithful to you but when it comes to feelings she may not be able to control them when the guy makes romantic moves on her.
How can you even be comfortable letting your girlfriend travel with her guy friend, who does that?
If she decides that she wants to travel with her male friend even after saying no that is when you should just end the relationship.
She doesn’t care about your feelings and her love for you has a big question mark. If she insisted on going on that trip even after you said no, she may be cheating on you with him.
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