Abduljabbar Ali If you are in a relationship and you are thinking of traveling solo it might be a challenge for you.
The truth is that your partner may not love the idea of you traveling alone When he or she can accompany you.
Couples need to be around each other for the relationship to work.
You may tell yourself that solo traveling when you are in a relationship is just like being in a long-distance relationship.
That is not the case since you move from one location to another, enjoy yourself, and meet other solo travelers on the way.
For a relationship to survive when you are solo traveling, you need to come up with some rules that will hold your relationship together.
In this article, I will share some tips that will hold your relationship into place while you are solo traveling.
This is what to do when you want to travel alone when you are in a relationship;
1. Be clear to your partner about why you want to travel solo.
If you want to travel solo when you are in a relationship, you have to talk to your partner about it.
Your partner won’t just be okay with you booking a one-way ticket to India when he or she wants you around.
As a rule of thumb in any relationship, you need to talk to your partner and share what you want to do.
Even if you know that your partner won’t be okay with you traveling alone.
In a relationship, you won’t always see eye to eye on certain things. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk about it with your partner.
Couples should support each other’s dreams to succeed in life.
So, if solo traveling is something you want to do so badly, be honest with your partner.
Let him or her know why you want to do it and what it means to you.
If you know that it’s through solo traveling that is when you can build your life and be the independent individual you want to be, let him or her know about it.
Maybe it’s just your dream to travel solo for a period before you think of bringing your partner along, let him or her know about it.
When you are clear with your partner about why you want to travel alone, he or she will know why you want to do it.
And from that, you will get his or her response concerning what you want to do.
2. Listen to what your partner says.
After you have told your partner about why you made up your mind to travel solo, it’s time to listen to him or her.
What does your partner want and expect from this?
Is your partner okay with you traveling solo?
If he or she is okay with it, how does he or she expect you to handle the relationship?
You have told your partner that you want to travel and explore the world without him or her.
Your partner has something to say about this, you need to listen to him or her.
If your partner doesn’t say anything after you have told him or her about why you want to travel alone, ask him or her some questions.
These questions will make him open up about what he or she thinks of what you want to do.
To be honest, your partner wants you around so I don’t think he or she is going to be excited when you tell him or her that you want to travel alone.
If your partner says that he or she doesn’t want you to travel alone, it’s going to be a tough discussion.
When this is the case, you will have to sit down and think deeply about what you truly want.
Does your relationship mean something more than your dreams and aspirations?
If solo traveling is a dream you have been working on even before you met your partner, then you will have to let go of him or her.
You aren’t on the same page — he or she will never be happy to let you travel the world without him or her.
If he or she doesn’t want you to travel alone, this shows you are on different paths and there is no way the relationship is going to work.
It’s just like when your partner says that he or she can’t handle a long-distance relationship.
If you move far away that will be the end of the relationship because there is no way he or she is going to put an effort to keep it going.
So, when your partner doesn’t want you to travel alone, you will have a decision to make.
Do you choose solo traveling over your relationship?
If it turns out that your partner is okay with you traveling solo since he or she wants to support your dreams, you should go ahead and do it.
3. Before you travel spend time with your partner.
You need to spend more time with your partner before you start traveling.
Your partner needs your attention and time when you are around.
The more time you spend together before you hit the road, it will help you connect.
Especially if your relationship is new, you need to create some memories together and bond so that the distance doesn’t ruin it.
Make an effort to spend more time with your partner, show him or her what he or she means to you.
The more time you will spend together — the connection will grow stronger.
Also, it will let your partner know that you care about him or her.
If you distance yourself from your partner simply because you are too busy yet you are about to leave him or her, this might ruin your connection.
You have a responsibility to your partner, so make a point of keeping it together if you want the relationship to survive.
Sacrifice some of the time you have to give him or her company before you start traveling.
You will miss these moments when you are out there wandering around the world.
4. Maintain communication with your partner while traveling.
For the relationship to hold still, you need to maintain communication with your partner.
Communication is what will hold the relationship in place when you are far away from each other.
So, no matter how busy you may be, you need to make some time to text and call your partner.
There will be a lot of things to talk about with your partner especially now that you will be seeing the world alone.
If your partner is also traveling solo, you will share your stories of the destinations you have visited.
You will have much to talk about — this will maintain your connection and it will hold your relationship into place.
What you need to know is that a long-distance relationship won’t survive without you maintaining communication.
If you stop talking to your partner after you have started traveling solo, he or she will think you no longer think he or she matters to you.
This might make your partner lose interest in you and consider being with someone else.
Your partner will assume that you met someone else while traveling and that is why you stopped talking to him or her.
So, don’t do anything that will give your partner the impression that you are no longer interested in him or her after you start traveling.
5. Reassure your partner that you won’t let go.
Another thing you need to do is to reassure your partner that you won’t let go of him or her.
Your partner is worried about how the relationship is going to hold up even if he or she seems cool with what you want to do.
He or she may have said yes to what you want to do but that doesn’t mean he or she is okay with it.
Your partner is just supporting your dreams because he or she cares about your success.
He or she wants to do what you love and he or she doesn’t want to be the reason why you didn’t venture into what could have been your breakthrough.
If you don’t want your partner to be worried about how the relationship is going to turn out, always reassure him or her about how you feel for him or her.
The random texts and calls you make telling him or her how much you love him or her are what will keep on holding tight onto you.
Your partner will know that nothing is going to break the bond between the two of you.
It will be a reason for your partner to hold still to what you are working on.
6. Once in a while make a point of meeting up.
If you know that you will be traveling alone for a long time, you need to meet up once in a while.
It will be a good thing because long distances won’t work if you don’t meet.
Being far away from each other alone is a risk to your relationship.
Now think of what will happen if you don’t meet up for longer. The connection between the two of you will grow weaker.
If you don’t cheat on your partner, he or she will do it.
You will be the one to be blamed for that because you never made an effort to meet with him or her.
So, if your partner is also traveling alone, you can select a destination where you will be meeting up after one or two months of traveling.
Select a location where you will just meet up and enjoy yourselves and focus on each other for a week or two before you start traveling on different paths again.
This will ensure that your relationship is held in place.
What if your partner is not traveling?
If he or she isn’t traveling and you know that it will be hard to come back to your hometown after you have started traveling, be honest with him or her.
Don’t lie to him or her that you will be visiting him or her after two months when you know it’s a promise you can’t keep.
To be honest, if you are going to be traveling solo for more than 6 months without meeting up, it will kill your relationship.
Lastly…
If you want to travel solo when you are in a relationship the first thing you have to do is to talk to your partner about it.
Your partner needs to know why you prefer to travel solo.
But if it turns out that your partner is not okay with you traveling alone, it will be up to you to choose between your relationship and your dreams.
If the art of solo traveling means a lot to you than the relationship, you will have no choice but to let it go.
But if you can compromise your dreams to save your relationship, do what you think is right for you.
This is what will enable you to stand still in the middle of the chaos.
If your partner is fine with you traveling solo, make sure you maintain communication and reassure him or her that you won’t let go.
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